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Social Conventions around Suggestions, Requests, and Instructions

Some people care a lot whether rules are flexible or not. These people might feel strongly that rules are not flexible and should never be changed. Read the six rules below. Which rules or obligations sound inflexible or unchangeable? Which rules sound more flexible?

Place the number of each sentence below along the scale to show how flexible or inflexible you think the rule is. Drag a number from the table to the correct place on the scale.

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1. You had better not keep secrets from your significant other.
4
4. You have to put that bottle in the recycling bin.
2
2. You should bring a small present when you visit someone's house.
5
5. You can't use her cellphone unless you ask.
3
3. You can put that bottle in the recycling bin.
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6. You cannot use her cellphone unless you ask.

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